Inspiration of the Day: Are you feeling overwhelmed?

Inspiration of the Day: Are you feeling overwhelmed?



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Running a blog can be stressful if you’re not taking the necessary steps before you start publishing posts!

I took a step back from my blog, for about 2 weeks. When I looked back at all the work I had done, it wasn’t cohesive. It looked like different people were putting posts on my site. There were no specific fonts, no color scheme, and my logo wasn’t even exactly what I wanted!

I had to take and step back, read more posts, and watch more videos to make sure I was branding myself the right way. This has been extremely hectic for me. I would work in the morning until it was time to get my daughter at school, I would take her home, do my usual nighttime routine, and after she was in bed, I would finally have time to work on my site! Sheesh! At this time, I was already exhausted, and then I would search for hours and hours on Pinterest trying to get even more information. Let’s not forget the fact that I have MAJOR squirrel syndrome! (Yes, that’s a real thing). So, while I was researching branding pins, I was checking my email, watching YouTube videos, and doing everything but what I was supposed to be doing.

I had a lot going on before, and now it’s even more hectic adding this blog onto my plate! Sometimes I wonder what in blue blazes am I doing? But I guess I like the challenge? -shrugs-

My Life Saver

With all this going on, I had no clear view of what I wanted to do, on what day, or for how long. I was EXTREMELY unorganized. So, I decided to look on Pinterest, for tips on how to get organized, and I found this book/planner! It was highly rated by a lot of bloggers and received good reviews on amazon.com!

The thing I love about this planner is that it has a questionnaire at the beginning. It helps to guide you through your planning process for whatever your goal is (I chose blogging and physical products that I would like to sell in the near future). After you’ve filled that out, you can start setting your short and long term goals. Yippee!

Another cute thing about this planner is at the end of the week you can check off whether you’ve fulfilled your goal(s). It’s kinda like having a little accountability partner.

You have a yearly goal, then you have quarterly goals to get you to the yearly goals and then you have weekly goals to get you to your quarterly goals. For example: my first quarterly goal, was to get my blog launched by March (obviously, I’m super early). Then I set one of my weekly goals to be, write one post. And my daily goals were to write sections of my post, so I wouldn’t be overwhelmed. So, you can basically plan your year in this book, it will keep you organized, and not overwhelmed.

I bought this book, in conjunction with my Erin Condren Life Planner.

My Life Planner is what I use for everyday planning: like bills, hair appointments, errands, and my daily goals. I love this thingy because it has inserts, it comes with planner stickers, folders, places to write your goals and more! Think of it as a scrapbook and an agenda wrapped up in one!

 

May I suggest something?

I understand some of you have careers, children, husbands, school, or whatever your situation may be, you DO have time for your passions! Sometimes we waste precious time doing things like watching TV, relaxing for extended amounts of time, talking on the phone, texting, using social media to stalk someone secretly. Whatever your hangup is, you must train yourself to maximize your time as best as possible.

If you read your planner every day and complete your goals little by little, there’s no way you won’t accomplish them.

Sunday is my day of rest. I go to church, then afterwards, my daughter and I go to the park. While she is playing, I sit down and plan my goals for the week. EVERYONE can spare 20-30 minutes of quiet time for planning and organizing.

A friend of mine suggested I get up earlier so I can maximize the day to the best of my abilities. And at first i was like “yeah ok, sounds great” but in my head i was like umm… that’s a negative! But one day I was stressing out because I felt like I didn’t have enough hours in the day, and I was always tired! So, I started getting up earlier. In the mornings, I would work on my blog, read a chapter out of my books for the month (I try to read 1 to 2 books a month based on my niches), and then get ready for work.

It may seem like common sense, but I feel like so many people are stagnant in life because they lack proper planning, among other things! I noticed a change in myself once I started planning. I am making small achievable goals and I am going to complete them all for this year. Bwahahahaha!

 

So, without further adieu, here is my inspirational question of the day. I hope you enjoyed!

Inspiration of the Day: When is the perfect time?





Pre-programming

In some aspects I feel like we were taught that in everything we do, we have to plan things out to the T, work out the minutia of the plan and make sure everything is perfectIn waiting for the perfect time, you miss out on opportunities to do something great, or heck, even learn something.

Let’s take my dance academy for example. When I first started at UV Latin Dance, I was PAINFULLY shy. When it came to learning the steps in class, I was a little more confident, because I was comfortable with my classmates. But when it came to social dancing, I was too scared to get on the dancefloor and make a mistake in front of everyone.

All I was doing was allowing fear to hold me back from learning something new because I wasn’t perfect yet. My classmates and instructors either pulled me on the dancefloor themselves, or after they were finished dancing with someone, they would ask that person to dance with me. This was pure evil if you ask me. I would be mortified , and I would feel so humiliated after making about… 567 mistakes (especially since I apologized after every mistake).

I should of seen it as an opportunity to learn something, whether I had enough dance moves or not. I thought waiting until I had learned enough dance moves would be the perfect time to start dancing.  But that was a lie I sold to myself because I was scared. NOW I’m getting a little bit better, I’m still apprehensive to making mistakes on the dancefloor, but when I do, I don’t apologize for it.  

Perfect Conditions

I found this awesome quote on Regina.com, and I thought it was perfect! I am the type of person who likes to wait for “perfect conditions” before I do something. I’m pretty sure I’ve missed out on a lot of opportunities because of this. I almost missed out on starting this blog. Originally I thought I was going to do strictly a nail blog, with tutorials, and reviews. And to do this I needed certain props and products that I couldn’t afford at the time, so I was going to wait until I had everything , before I started it. I wasted about a month before my mom convinced me to just start where I am, and with what I have.

 

So I decided to start where I am, and I noticed my first couple posts have been inspirational posts( read my last post here), so my niche might be changing yet again, but we’ll see.

It’s ok to make mistakes…right?

As I’m getting older, I’m realizing that I HAVE to start making moves, doing things that I think I might not be ready for, making mistakes and being ok with it. When I read about entrepreneurs, they all made mistakes (HUGE mistakes sometimes).

I don’t think any them waited for the “perfect time”, and they weren’t afraid to go out there and live their dream. I know it’s not going to be cupcakes and fairy dust, but I would rather take a risk on doing what I’m passionate about, rather than living a life that wasn’t meant for me. We are fearfully and wonderfully made (psalms 139: 14). We were not created to live in poverty!

“Failure is a part of business. Very few entrepreneurs ever make it big without first experiencing some massive failures. Whether it be running a business into the ground, getting fired from a job or even going to jail, plenty of very successful entrepreneurs have seen huge failures before ever accomplishing their dreams” –Annie Pilon.

Here are some entrepreneurs who failed and made it big (I obtained this list here):

Business Gurus

  1. Henry Ford: While Ford is today known for his innovative assembly line and American-made cars, he wasn’t an instant success. In fact, his early businesses failed and left him broke five times before he founded the successful Ford Motor Company.
  2. R. H. Macy: Most people are familiar with this large department store chain, but Macy didn’t always have it easy. Macy started seven failed business before finally hitting big with his store in New York City.
  3. F. W. Woolworth: Some may not know this name today, but Woolworth was once one of the biggest names in department stores in the U.S. Before starting his own business, young Woolworth worked at a dry goods store and was not allowed to wait on customers because his boss said he lacked the sense needed to do so.
  4. Soichiro Honda: The billion-dollar business that is Honda began with a series of failures and fortunate turns of luck. Honda was turned down by Toyota Motor Corporation for a job after interviewing for a job as an engineer, leaving him jobless for quite some time. He started making scooters of his own at home, and spurred on by his neighbors, finally started his own business.
  5. Akio Morita: You may not have heard of Morita but you’ve undoubtedly heard of his company, Sony. Sony’s first product was a rice cooker that unfortunately didn’t cook rice so much as burn it, selling less than 100 units. This first setback didn’t stop Morita and his partners as they pushed forward to create a multi-billion dollar company.
  6. Bill Gates: Gates didn’t seem like a shoe-in for success after dropping out of Harvard and starting a failed first business with Microsoft co-founder Paul Allen called Traf-O-Data. While this early idea didn’t work, Gates’ later work did, creating the global empire that is Microsoft.
  7. Harland David Sanders: Perhaps better known as Colonel Sanders of Kentucky Fried Chicken fame, Sanders had a hard time selling his chicken at first. In fact, his famous secret chicken recipe was rejected 1,009 times before a restaurant accepted it.
  8. Walt Disney: Today Disney rakes in billions from merchandise, movies and theme parks around the world, but Walt Disney himself had a bit of a rough start. He was fired by a newspaper editor because, “he lacked imagination and had no good ideas.” After that, Disney started a number of businesses that didn’t last too long and ended with bankruptcy and failure. He kept plugging along, however, and eventually found a recipe for success that worked.

Scientists and Thinkers

  1. Albert Einstein: Most of us take Einstein’s name as synonymous with genius, but he didn’t always show such promise. Einstein did not speak until he was four and did not read until he was seven, causing his teachers and parents to think he was mentally handicapped, slow and anti-social. Eventually, he was expelled from school and was refused admittance to the Zurich Polytechnic School. It might have taken him a bit longer, but most people would agree that he caught on pretty well in the end, winning the Nobel Prize and changing the face of modern physics.
  2. Charles Darwin: In his early years, Darwin gave up on having a medical career and was often chastised by his father for being lazy and too dreamy. Darwin himself wrote, “I was considered by all my masters and my father, a very ordinary boy, rather below the common standard of intellect.” Perhaps they judged too soon, as Darwin today is well-known for his scientific studies.
  3. Robert Goddard: Goddard today is hailed for his research and experimentation with liquid-fueled rockets, but during his lifetime his ideas were often rejected and mocked by his scientific peers who thought they were outrageous and impossible. Today rockets and space travel don’t seem far-fetched at all, due largely in part to the work of this scientist who worked against the feelings of the time.
  4. Isaac Newton: Newton was undoubtedly a genius when it came to math, but he had some failings early on. He never did particularly well in school and when put in charge of running the family farm, he failed miserably, so poorly in fact that an uncle took charge and sent him off to Cambridge where he finally blossomed into the scholar we know today.
  5. Socrates: Despite leaving no written records behind, Socrates is regarded as one of the greatest philosophers of the Classical era. Because of his new ideas, in his own time he was called “an immoral corrupter of youth” and was sentenced to death. Socrates didn’t let this stop him and kept right on, teaching up until he was forced to poison himself.
  6. Robert Sternberg: This big name in psychology received a “C” in his first college introductory psychology class with his teacher telling him that, “there was already a famous Sternberg in psychology and it was obvious there would not be another.” Ouch! Sternberg showed him, however, graduating from Stanford with exceptional distinction in psychology, summa cum laude, and Phi Beta Kappa and eventually becoming the President of the American Psychological Association. This should inspire students at traditional and accredited online colleges to always strive to succeed, no matter what anyone says along the way.

Inventors

  1. Thomas Edison: In his early years, teachers told Edison he was “too stupid to learn anything.” Work was no better, as he was fired from his first two jobs for not being productive enough. Even as an inventor, Edison made 1,000 unsuccessful attempts at inventing the light bulb. Of course, all those unsuccessful attempts finally resulted in the design that worked.
  2. Orville and Wilbur Wright: These brothers battled depression and family illness before starting the bicycle shop that would lead them to experimenting with flight. After numerous attempts at creating flying machines, several years of hard work, and tons of failed prototypes, the brothers finally created a plane that could get airborne and stay there.

Public Figures

  1. Winston Churchill: This Nobel Prize-winning, twice-elected Prime Minster of the United Kingdom wasn’t always as well regarded as he is today. Churchill struggled in school and failed the sixth grade. After school he faced many years of political failures, as he was defeated in every election for public office until he finally became the Prime Minister at the ripe old age of 62.
  2. Abraham Lincoln: While today he is remembered as one of the greatest leaders of our nation, Lincoln’s life wasn’t so easy. In his youth he went to war a captain and returned a private (if you’re not familiar with military ranks, just know that private is as low as it goes.) Lincoln didn’t stop failing there, however. He started numerous failed business and was defeated in numerous runs he made for public office.
  3. Oprah Winfrey: Most people know Oprah as one of the most iconic faces on TV as well as one of the richest and most successful women in the world. Oprah faced a hard road to get to that position, however, enduring a rough and often abusive childhood as well as numerous career setbacks including being fired from her job as a television reporter because she was “unfit for tv.”
  4. Harry S. Truman: This WWI vet, Senator, Vice President and eventual President eventually found success in his life, but not without a few missteps along the way. Truman started a store that sold silk shirts and other clothing–seemingly a success at first–only go bankrupt a few years later.
  5. Dick Cheney: This recent Vice President and businessman made his way to the White House but managed to flunk out of Yale University, not once, but twice. Former President George W. Bush joked with Cheney about this fact, stating, “So now we know –if you graduate from Yale, you become president. If you drop out, you get to be vice president.”

Hollywood Types

  1. Jerry Seinfeld: Just about everybody knows who Seinfeld is, but the first time the young comedian walked on stage at a comedy club, he looked out at the audience, froze and was eventually jeered and booed off of the stage. Seinfeld knew he could do it, so he went back the next night, completed his set to laughter and applause, and the rest is history.
  2. Fred Astaire: In his first screen test, the testing director of MGM noted that Astaire, “Can’t act. Can’t sing. Slightly bald. Can dance a little.” Astaire went on to become an incredibly successful actor, singer and dancer and kept that note in his Beverly Hills home to remind him of where he came from.
  3. Sidney Poitier: After his first audition, Poitier was told by the casting director, “Why don’t you stop wasting people’s time and go out and become a dishwasher or something?” Poitier vowed to show him that he could make it, going on to win an Oscar and become one of the most well-regarded actors in the business.
  4. Jeanne Moreau: As a young actress just starting out, this French actress was told by a casting director that she was simply not pretty enough to make it in films. He couldn’t have been more wrong as Moreau when on to star in nearly 100 films and win numerous awards for her performances.
  5. Charlie Chaplin: It’s hard to imagine film without the iconic Charlie Chaplin, but his act was initially rejected by Hollywood studio chiefs because they felt it was a little too nonsensical to ever sell.
  6. Lucille Ball: During her career, Ball had thirteen Emmy nominations and four wins, also earning the Lifetime Achievement Award from the Kennedy Center Honors. Before starring in I Love Lucy, Ball was widely regarded as a failed actress and a B movie star. Even her drama instructors didn’t feel she could make it, telling her to try another profession. She, of course, proved them all wrong.
  7. Harrison Ford: In his first film, Ford was told by the movie execs that he simply didn’t have what it takes to be a star. Today, with numerous hits under his belt, iconic portrayals of characters like Han Solo and Indiana Jones, and a career that stretches decades, Ford can proudly show that he does, in fact, have what it takes.
  8. Marilyn Monroe: While Monroe’s star burned out early, she did have a period of great success in her life. Despite a rough upbringing and being told by modeling agents that she should instead consider being a secretary, Monroe became a pin-up, model and actress that still strikes a chord with people today.
  9. Oliver Stone: This Oscar-winning filmmaker began his first novel while at Yale, a project that eventually caused him to fail out of school. This would turn out to be a poor decision as the the text was rejected by publishers and was not published until 1998, at which time it was not well-received. After dropping out of school, Stone moved to Vietnam to teach English, later enlisting in the army and fighting in the war, a battle that earning two Purple Hearts and helped him find the inspiration for his later work that often center around war.

Writers and Artists

  1. Vincent Van Gogh: During his lifetime, Van Gogh sold only one painting, and this was to a friend and only for a very small amount of money. While Van Gogh was never a success during his life, he plugged on with painting, sometimes starving to complete his over 800 known works. Today, they bring in hundreds of millions.
  2. Emily Dickinson: Recluse and poet Emily Dickinson is a commonly read and loved writer. Yet in her lifetime she was all but ignored, having fewer than a dozen poems published out of her almost 1,800 completed works.
  3. Theodor Seuss Giesel: Today nearly every child has read The Cat in the Hat or Green Eggs and Ham, yet 27 different publishers rejected Dr. Seuss’s first book To Think That I Saw It on Mulberry Street.
  4. Charles Schultz: Schultz’s Peanuts comic strip has had enduring fame, yet this cartoonist had every cartoon he submitted rejected by his high school yearbook staff. Even after high school, Schultz didn’t have it easy, applying and being rejected for a position working with Walt Disney.
  5. Steven Spielberg: While today Spielberg’s name is synonymous with big budget, he was rejected from the University of Southern California School of Theater, Film and Television three times. He eventually attended school at another location, only to drop out to become a director before finishing. Thirty-five years after starting his degree, Spielberg returned to school in 2002 to finally complete his work and earn his BA.
  6. Stephen King: The first book by this author, the iconic thriller Carrie, received 30 rejections, finally causing King to give up and throw it in the trash. His wife fished it out and encouraged him to resubmit it, and the rest is history, with King now having hundreds of books published the distinction of being one of the best-selling authors of all time.
  7. Zane Grey: Incredibly popular in the early 20th century, this adventure book writer began his career as a dentist, something he quickly began to hate. So, he began to write, only to see rejection after rejection for his works, being told eventually that he had no business being a writer and should given up. It took him years, but at 40, Zane finally got his first work published, leaving him with almost 90 books to his name and selling over 50 million copies worldwide.
  8. J. K. Rowling: Rowling may be rolling in a lot of Harry Potter dough today, but before she published the series of novels she was nearly penniless, severely depressed, divorced, trying to raise a child on her own while attending school and writing a novel. Rowling went from depending on welfare to survive to being one of the richest women in the world in a span of only five years through her hard work and determination.
  9. Monet: Today Monet’s work sells for millions of dollars and hangs in some of the most prestigious institutions in the world. Yet during his own time, it was mocked and rejected by the artistic elite, the Paris Salon. Monet kept at his impressionist style, which caught on and in many ways was a starting point for some major changes to art that ushered in the modern era.
  10. Jack London: This well-known American author wasn’t always such a success. While he would go on to publish popular novels like White Fang and The Call of the Wild, his first story received six hundred rejection slips before finally being accepted.
  11. Louisa May Alcott: Most people are familiar with Alcott’s most famous work, Little Women. Yet Alcott faced a bit of a battle to get her work out there and was was encouraged to find work as a servant by her family to make ends meet. It was her letters back home during her experience as a nurse in the Civil War that gave her the first big break she needed.

Musicians

  1. Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart: Mozart began composing at the age of five, writing over 600 pieces of music that today are lauded as some of the best ever created. Yet during his lifetime, Mozart didn’t have such an easy time, and was often restless, leading to his dismissal from a position as a court musician in Salzberg. He struggled to keep the support of the aristocracy and died with little to his name.
  2. Elvis Presley: As one of the best-selling artists of all time, Elvis has become a household name even years after his death. But back in 1954, Elvis was still a nobody, and Jimmy Denny, manager of the Grand Ole Opry, fired Elvis Presley after just one performance telling him, “You ain’t goin’ nowhere, son. You ought to go back to drivin’ a truck.”
  3. Igor Stravinsky: In 1913 when Stravinsky debuted his now famous Rite of Spring, audiences rioted, running the composer out of town. Yet it was this very work that changed the way composers in the 19th century thought about music and cemented his place in musical history.
  4. The Beatles: Few people can deny the lasting power of this super group, still popular with listeners around the world today. Yet when they were just starting out, a recording company told them no. The were told “we don’t like their sound, and guitar music is on the way out,” two things the rest of the world couldn’t have disagreed with more.
  5. Ludwig van Beethoven: In his formative years, young Beethoven was incredibly awkward on the violin and was often so busy working on his own compositions that he neglected to practice. Despite his love of composing, his teachers felt he was hopeless at it and would never succeed with the violin or in composing. Beethoven kept plugging along, however, and composed some of the best-loved symphonies of all time–five of them while he was completely deaf.

Athletes

  1. Michael Jordan: Most people wouldn’t believe that a man often lauded as the best basketball player of all time was actually cut from his high school basketball team. Luckily, Jordan didn’t let this setback stop him from playing the game and he has stated, “I have missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I have lost almost 300 games. On 26 occasions I have been entrusted to take the game winning shot, and I missed. I have failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”
  2. Stan Smith: This tennis player was rejected from even being a lowly ball boy for a Davis Cup tennis match because event organizers felt he was too clumsy and uncoordinated. Smith went on to prove them wrong, showcasing his not-so-clumsy skills by winning Wimbledon, U. S. Open and eight Davis Cups.
  3. Babe Ruth: You probably know Babe Ruth because of his home run record (714 during his career), but along with all those home runs came a pretty hefty amount of strikeouts as well (1,330 in all). In fact, for decades he held the record for strikeouts. When asked about this he simply said, “Every strike brings me closer to the next home run.”
  4. Tom Landry: As the coach of the Dallas Cowboys, Landry brought the team two Super Bowl victories, five NFC Championship victories and holds the records for the record for the most career wins. He also has the distinction of having one of the worst first seasons on record (winning no games) and winning five or fewer over the next four seasons.

Before they knew they were going to be amazing, I’m sure these perceived failures were devastating, but they kept moving forward anyway! I have vowed to stop waiting for the perfect time, and start living my life. I refuse to live a life where I’m not doing exactly what I love. It may be cliché, but its true. If you do what you love, you will always be successful! So without further adieu, here is my inspiration of the day (a thought provoking question)!

 

The answer is NEVER!!! Just go out and do it!

Inspiration of the Day: What are you feeding your fear?

Inspiration of the Day: What are you feeding your fear?

Welcome to the first inspirational post on my website! Let’s get right into it.




A Blast from the Past

I have been a Debbie Downer for as long as I can remember. I was the shy, quiet, people pleaser that pretended not to care what people thought of me. The fear of not being accepted by my peers was so daunting in my youth, I did what I could to make friends. I was always negative and judgmental, among other things. I never felt beautiful, worthy of love, and at times not worthy of people’s friendships. I mean, family members and friends would always tell me the opposite, but if YOU don’t believe it, they are wasting their breath.

I allowed Fear to put me in a  lifetime of depression and anxiety, well into to my adulthood. I used to blame other people and situations for how I felt about myself, or for how I treated others, but the reality was (according to Les Brown), I made an appointment to be there. And boy was he right!

Who is Fear and what does it eat?

The spirit of fear is a dark entity that plagues the lives of many. But it doesn’t stop there, Fear always comes with an entourage, called Self-Doubt and Worry. All three of these are leeches, and in order to survive, they need to  feed! Feed on what you say?

Fear and his friends have the ability to multiply and attach themselves to many people at a time. They seek out individuals with the biggest clouds of negative thoughts hanging over their heads. Thoughts like:

“I am not good enough”

“I am not smart enough”

“I cant do this”

“Shes prettier than me”

“What if I cant make it”

“I don’t have enough money”

Fear eats this all up and grows bigger, and bigger and bigger! Until your only thoughts are that of only negative connotations.

How to Get Rid of Fear

This is something I’m constantly working on myself. The way to get rid of Fear and his friends, is to speak positively, THAT’S IT!!! I know it sounds like common sense, but it isn’t so common. I see you rolling your eyes, and kissing your teeth, but explain to me why the majority of the people around you, are working in jobs they hate, studying for degrees they are not passionate about, or even living in poverty. My pastor always says, living in poverty isn’t always referring to something financial, it can be poverty of the mind, marriage, family relationships (me), and so on.

When you speak positively to yourself and to your situations every time a negative thought pops up into your head, it can change your life drastically. Personally, when my negative thoughts start to get rowdy, I pray and I speak His Word to my situations. I have to remind myself who He says that I am, instead of the lies I’ve told myself over the years.

Just know it starts in the mind, change your thoughts, change your life.

 

The Blame Game 

I think we get so caught up in blaming people, we forget to take responsibility for ourselves and our actions. (Once again talking to myself at this point). It helps to remember, Every single thing we do in life is a choice.

 Fear used to be the driver of my vehicle called life, and I used to sit in the back seat. Now I’m in the passenger seat, and I’m working my way towards getting behind the wheel.

I refuse to feed my fear with negative thoughts, instead I choose to replace it with positive words. If I can change the negative talk in my head, I can change my life. Like I said before, I have not mastered it, but I CAN see a difference in myself today by practicing positive self-talk.

Anyways, without further adieu, here is my inspirational quote of the day.

Don’t allow Fear to put limits on your life.